The Story - Part Five (Guest Blog: My Wife!)

I wanted to give Margo opportunity to occasionally interject her thoughts and share her part of our journey over the last six months.  She will be contributing often over the next couple weeks, and maybe even more in the future if she catches "the bug"!  I value her side of this story, and I hope you can find it just as valuable to you.

Here are her words...

I can clearly remember when David told me he was emotionally involved with another woman. I couldn’t believe that this could happen to us.  I can imagine that when many of you heard what happened for the first time, you probably had a similar reaction.  Was I completely blindsided by this?  No.  This may not make a lot of sense when I just said that I couldn’t believe that it had happened.  Let me explain.

Two weeks before I found out about David’s involvement with another woman, he had come to talk with me.  He told me that he was feeling vulnerable towards this other woman.  Do you know what I did?  Nothing!  I thought too highly of my husband, my marriage and myself.  I didn’t think that there was any chance that anything would come of it.    During those two weeks, David and I were definitely struggling.  I thought that it was mainly due to having a newborn. David was never home and always had something going on.  This made me more and more angry, which in turn made David want to be home less and less.  If he was gone I was angry, if he was there I was angry. 

 

A couple days before David shared with me what was going on, I was talking with a friend of mine who had gone through a divorce.  I actually had this thought in my head of how sad this was for her and how lucky I was that David and I had a strong marriage.  Sure we were struggling at the moment, but I was convinced it would pass and work itself out.   No marriage is affair proof.  I know we hear this, but… 

 

·     Do you really believe it?

·     Do you believe that you need to protect and fight for your marriage?

·     Do you know that if you are beginning to feel something towards someone other than your spouse, you cannot take this lightly?

 

If either of you is feeling vulnerable, share with each other.  But don’t just leave it at sharing like we did, do something about it.  Talk with someone outside of your marriage that you respect, someone who can keep you accountable and get to the root of why you are feeling vulnerable.  God created you for your spouse and your spouse for you. As David spoke on earlier, there is no greater earthly treasure. 

 

What are you going to do today to protect your marriage for tomorrow?

 

I look forward to sharing more of my heart in the days to come.

Comments

[Amanda Thress]

Love you Margo! Thank you Lord for Margo who has encouraged me to fight for my greatest earthly treasure: my marriage! What a blessing she is!

[Kiley]

Thanks to both of you for sharing your story with us - the rest of us who may believe that our marriages are foolproof or are complacent in our efforts to make our marriages stronger. Good food for thought and conversation.

[Michael Zealand]

Margo and Dave, I've been reading some of your posts tonight. Of course, not seeing you for so long I was completely unaware. I love you guys. Thank you for sharing, and Dave, call me anytime. I respectfully and thoughtfully remember our time serving together.