The Story - Part Six (Margo's Second Post)

There have been some people who are concerned that David did not say that he went as far as to kiss this woman that he was emotionally involved with for a couple weeks.   As far as David and I are concerned the main issue was that David was giving his heart away.  Neither of us believe that it would have added anything to his first blog to say this.  In fact I didn’t even think about this detail because his heart and my heart have always been the main focus.   We were not trying to hide anything by how David explained the situation. We are very free about sharing this in conversations that we have had.  However, if others need to see this written in the blog to know that we desire to speak all truth, here it is.

 

Please know that David and I are willing to be very open about our journey and many of the details.  However, there are some details that we will not be sharing, as some things would only hurt others.   This would not be beneficial for the main purpose of this blog and that is to bring honor to our God and healing and hope to others.  Many people have experienced hurt during all of this. Dwelling on those hurts or the technicalities of those hurts does not help anyone to heal.   

 

It is my hope and prayer that as David and I share our story that people will not be looking for what they want to hear, or how they think that we should be working through things. I wish that each of you could be walking with us physically so that you could visually see all the ways that David and I have changed and are continuing to change.  Since we can’t walk beside each of you, this blog serves that purpose as best it can.  

 

I am not married to the man that everyone knew 6 months ago and David is not married to the woman from that time either.  God has done and continues to do radical heart change.  I know that some people think that this has happened too quickly to be real.  But how many people do you know who engage in an affair and lose their job because of it and their whole life has to change?  Everything in our lives changed!  David lost his job and we moved away from the people who had become like family.  We have had to rely on God more than we ever have at any other point in our lives.

 

Through all of this I have come to truly realize that my God does love each of us so very much. That He really does want to take what was meant for evil and use it beyond anything we can imagine, if we let Him.  I hope that as you read our thoughts over the days and weeks to come that you are encouraged, challenged and blessed by all that God is doing in our lives.   

Comments

[Amanda Thress]

We are encouraged, challenged and blessed in many ways beyond what you have written. Be encouraged yourselves and know that God is God! His mercies are new every morning. Our lives and relationships with the Lord and each other are a journey and I am honored and privileged to be experiencing it with the Farwells; individuals who long to know, love and serve their God. I see hearts that are honest, open, transparent, authentic. None of us are perfect, thank God for the community of believers to encourage, support, challenge, pray with us as we need it. I thank God regularly for bringing David and Margo Farwell into our lives.

[Philip Williams]

Thanks for sharing the story and letting us learn from your journey! Much love...

[Randy Thress]

Dave & Margo, your openess, honesty, and willingness to be forthcoming about some of the most intimate details of your life continues to astonish, encourage, bless, bewilder and motivate me. Today on my run I heard a song by Keith Green (yes, I have Keith Green on my blackberry) called "You Love the World (And You're Avoiding Me)". Granted this isn't great running music, but it popped up on a shuffle and I listened to it about 3 times. It speaks to the heart of where I have been in my spiritual walk for a while. Thankfully, I am coming out of this "desert" time now. I think the song also speaks to the hearts of so MANY Christians today. Yes, we love God (or at least say we do), but when it comes down to it we would rather be comfortable in our personally constructed hiding places than to be real with ourselves, our family/friends and with God. Forget that God knows the in-most depths of our heart anyway, we still try to fake it and play nice. God ain't fooled. I can only hope I will continue to realize this, respond to it and act on it more each day. I also pray that everyone who takes a minute to ready your heart(s) here will take an extra minute to search their own heart and respond to what they hear the God of the universe saying to them. Sorry to blog on your blog. Look forward to growing more with you guys tomorrow.

[Sharla]

I have said before that an affair is an affair. Whether it is emotional or physical, the damage to your relationship with your spouse and with God is done regardless of how short the affair was or the actions that took place. Everyone should be reading and hearing the story of how God has worked in your life PLUS the obedience to God during this restoration that both you and Dave have shown. Margo, I remember you had said that the year prior to this event was one of the most spiritually dry periods of your life. How God have shown you and Dave, as well as the rest of us, how much love and grace He has for everyone if we just keep Him as our focus. I too look forward to hearing more of hearing your story. Being on the other side of how most affairs end, I will stand beside you and Dave in every step you have taken and continue to take. To God be the glory in your story!

[Keri]

Thank you Margo for sharing this part of your lives with us! May God continue to bless your family and bring you great joy and peace. Missing you and the opportunity to grow closer while you were here.